One alternative that nearly always relieves our suffering is surrender: we surrender our false self, and our attachment to the notion that we can control anything. We suffer when we resist what is. We slowly find that one of the most powerful and healing acts is giving up our need to always be in control. This freedom is that of our True Self. In this context, the word "surrender" does not mean to "give up" or to "lie down" in the military sense of losing a war. Rather, we mean that one who surrenders wins the struggle of trying to control, and ameliorates most of their resultant needless suffering {Whitfield 1985}. This becomes an ongoing process in life, not a goal to be achieved only once.
( Charles L. Whitfield )
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