After all our time living together, my identity is not self-contained: I am the way I am because she is the way she is. This "marriage of true minds" Shakespeare spoke of does not occur at the wedding nuptials but after sixty-five years of wedlock we may be getting there.
In the memoir "Tales of Wonder: Adventures Chasing the Divine," Huston Smith reflects on the profound impact of a long-lasting partnership. He underscores the idea that identity is shaped not only by individual experiences but also by the influence of a partner. This interconnectedness is a testament to the deep bond formed through years of shared life.
Smith draws on Shakespeare's notion of a "marriage of true minds," suggesting that such harmony is not simply achieved at the altar but develops over decades. After sixty-five years of marriage, he feels they are finally reaching this ideal of unity, showcasing the evolution of relationships and personal growth over time.