In her book "Hunger," Roxane Gay highlights the societal pressure on women to remain invisible or subdued. She points out that there’s a pervasive expectation for women to conform to certain roles that require them to downplay their presence and voices. This pressure often leads women to internalize the necessity of silence and self-effacement in various aspects of life.

Gay emphasizes the importance of vocalizing this struggle and defying these expectations. She argues that by openly discussing and resisting the pressures to disappear, women can reclaim their identities and assert their presence in the world. It's a call for women to stand firm and reject the societal norms that seek to silence them.