As I've said before, I believe that when all is said and done, all you can do is to show up for someone in crisis, which seems so inadequate. But then when you do, it can radically change everything. Your there-ness, your stepping into a scared parent's line of vision, can be life giving, because often everyone else is in hiding-especially, in the beginning, the parents. So you come to keep them company when it feels like the whole world is falling apart, and your being there says that just for this moment, this one tiny piece of the world is OK, or is at least better.
In her book "Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith," Anne Lamott emphasizes the profound impact of simply being present for someone in distress. She acknowledges that during a crisis, it often feels inadequate to show up for others, yet this presence can be transformative. By being there, you can provide a sense of comfort and stability when everything seems overwhelming, especially for scared parents who often retreat into isolation at such times.
Lamott highlights the importance of companionship during these challenging moments, suggesting that your presence signals that, despite the chaos, there exists a small portion of the world that is manageable or improved by your support. This act of showing up is not just about physical presence but about offering solace and hope when it is most needed, which can make a significant difference in someone's life.
