In "A Breath of Snow and Ashes," a character reflects on the responsibilities that come with being a man. He emphasizes that part of this role includes establishing boundaries and dealing with those who challenge them, whether they are enemies, family, or even one’s own spouse. This distinction is crucial, as it highlights the complexity of relationships and authority.

The character acknowledges that while physical force isn't always an option, the act of defining and enforcing these boundaries is a fundamental aspect of leadership. It signifies clarity in roles and power dynamics, making it evident to everyone involved who holds authority, thus maintaining order in relationships.