Being nice does not come out of goodness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing others and receiving their disapproval. It's driven by fear, not virtue.
by Aziz Gazipura
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The quote by Aziz Gazipura in "Not Nice" suggests that the behavior of being nice to others often stems not from genuine kindness, but rather from a fear of disapproval. It highlights that many people are driven to please others to avoid negative judgment, which indicates a lack of true confidence in themselves. This approach to niceness can lead to suppressing one's own needs and desires, ultimately causing inner conflict.

Gazipura's perspective invites readers to reconsider the motivations behind their interactions. Instead of being nice out of fear, he encourages embracing authenticity and assertiveness. By prioritizing self-expression and the ability to say "no," individuals can break free from the shackles of people-pleasing behavior and cultivate a more honest and fulfilling way of relating to others.

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