In her book "Why Not Me?", Mindy Kaling explores various aspects of self-confidence and personal growth. She emphasizes that confidence is not simply given; rather, it is something that must be cultivated through experiences and actions. Kaling draws parallels between confidence and respect, highlighting that both are built over time and require effort to establish. Kaling encourages readers to actively seek opportunities that challenge them and foster their self-assurance. By sharing her own journey, she illustrates the importance of stepping out of one's comfort zone to gain confidence, ultimately suggesting that earning confidence is a vital part of personal and professional development.