In any romantic relationship, the initial stages often involve an unspoken pact formed between partners. During this time, both individuals may feel euphoric and dreamy, yet subconsciously, they are setting the terms of their connection. These early agreements can shape expectations and behaviors that will persist throughout the relationship.

Kundera warns that these initial agreements, while seemingly harmless, can lead to entrapment. Acts of kindness or affection may become obligatory, creating pressure to maintain certain behaviors indefinitely. For instance, if one partner brings breakfast in bed early on, it may set a precedent that becomes expected in the future, potentially leading to feelings of resentment if those expectations are not met.