Roxane Gay emphasizes the importance of both collective and individual efforts in advancing feminism. While a united front may enhance the movement's impact, personal actions and behavior also contribute significantly to feminist success. Gay acknowledges the struggles some young women face in identifying with prominent feminists, which can lead to feelings of discouragement and disconnection from the movement.

Instead of waiting for role models to emerge, Gay encourages individuals to take initiative and embody the principles they wish to see in feminists. By striving to be the kind of feminist one admires, individuals can help shape the movement and inspire others, creating a more inclusive and relatable feminist landscape.