High on their posthumous pedestals, the dead become hard to see. Grief, deference, and the homogenizing effects of adulation blur the details, flatten the bumps, sand off the sharp corners.
In Anne Fadiman's work "The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories," she reflects on how society often idealizes the deceased, placing them on pedestals that obscure their true complexities. This tendency stems from grief and reverence, causing a loss of the multifaceted nature of individuals. The portrayals become overly simplistic, reducing the unique traits that made them who they were.
This phenomenon highlights how the communal experience of mourning can lead...