In her book "Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed," Sigrid Nunez explores the complexities surrounding the choice of motherhood, emphasizing that many women grapple with the fear of failure. This fear not only pressures women into considering motherhood but also fuels their ambivalence regarding such a significant life decision.

Nunez argues that alongside the fear of failure, the anxiety of missing out on experiences can drive women towards maternity, even when they may have reservations. This dynamic reflects broader societal expectations and the inner conflict faced by women as they navigate personal aspirations versus traditional roles.