In her book "Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed," Sigrid Nunez presents essays from various writers discussing their choice to remain childless. One poignant quote from Doris Lessing highlights a perspective that many intelligent women may find spending time with young children tedious. This sentiment reflects a broader view on motherhood and its demands, suggesting that some women feel unfulfilled or stifled by the responsibilities of childcare.

Throughout the essays, contributors share personal reasons and societal critiques surrounding the decision not to have children. The discussions reveal diverse views on freedom, personal ambition, and the societal pressure to conform to traditional roles of motherhood, allowing for a deeper understanding of why some women choose to prioritize their independence over parenthood.