In his essay, David Rakoff reflects on the unique demeanor of New Yorkers, particularly in how they engage with outsiders. He explains that his alarmist tendencies are a product of his environment, shaped by the anxieties and challenges of city life. New Yorkers, often overwhelmed by their surroundings, feel a need to project their fears onto newcomers.

This behavior serves as a way to prepare visitors for the harsh realities of urban existence. Rather than welcoming them with warmth, there's a tendency to instill a sense of dread, highlighting the city's intimidating nature. Rakoff captures this paradoxical approach to hospitality, where the goal is to ensure that newcomers fully grasp the city's intimidating character.