In "Everything Is Illuminated," Jonathan Safran Foer explores the complex dynamics of familial relationships. He suggests that relatives are those individuals with whom one can always be authentic, free from pretense or embarrassment. This creates a sense of safety in their presence, highlighting the importance of connection and support within families.

However, the author also points out a more nuanced reality: relatives have a unique power to hold us accountable. They can make us reflect on our actions and feelings, sometimes evoking a sense of shame when we stray from our values or make mistakes. This duality illustrates that while relatives can be a source of unconditional love, they also play a vital role in our personal growth and self-awareness.