In many ways, the emotional and economic self-sufficiency of unmarried life is more demanding than the state we have long acknowledged as {married} maturity. Being on one's own means shouldering one's own burdens in a way that being coupled rarely demands. It means doing everything-making decisions, taking responsibility, paying bills, cleaning the refrigerator-without the benefits of formal partnership. But we've still got a lot of hardwired assumptions that the successful female life is measured not in professional achievements or friendships or even satisfying sexual relationships, but by whether you're legally coupled.
In her book "All the Single Ladies," Rebecca Traister argues that the emotional and financial independence required for single living is often more challenging than the responsibilities of marriage. Unmarried individuals face the full weight of their decisions and obligations alone, managing everything from finances to daily chores without the support that a partnership typically provides. This highlights the unique demands of single life, which often go unrecognized in society.
Furthermore, Traister points out society's tendency to equate a successful life for women with being in a legally recognized relationship. Despite achievements in careers or meaningful friendships, cultural narratives still prioritize marital status as a benchmark for success. This stigmatization overlooks the strength and complexity of unmarried life, urging a reevaluation of how we define fulfillment and maturity among women today.
