Putting aside the fact that graveyards also contain large numbers of wives and mothers, Mills was wrong on another front: A job may very well love you back. It may sustain and support you, buoy your spirits and engage your mind, as the best romantic partner would, and far more effectively than a subpar spouse might. In work, it is possible to find commitment, attachment, chemistry, and connection.
Rebecca Traister's book, "All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation," challenges the notion that a job cannot reciprocate one’s affection. The author disputes the idea presented by Mills that work is solely a necessity or a means to an end, emphasizing that a fulfilling job can provide emotional support and mental engagement akin to a loving relationship. Traister suggests that work can foster a deep commitment and connection, much like that found in meaningful romantic partnerships.
Moreover, Traister acknowledges that work has the potential to uplift and inspire individuals, thereby enhancing their overall well-being. She argues that in today's society, many women find purpose and fulfillment in their careers, experiencing joy and companionship through their professional endeavors. This perspective highlights the evolving understanding of relationships, suggesting that emotional ties can flourish not only in personal contexts but also in one’s professional life.