Many individuals initially form connections based on sexual attraction, which draws them together. This strong initial appeal often masks underlying compatibility issues as they focus on their physical chemistry.

However, once the excitement subsides, they may realize that their personalities, values, or lifestyles do not align, making it difficult to sustain a lasting relationship. As the quote from James Patterson's book "Mistress" suggests, "Most people come together through sexual attraction and then try to figure out if they're compatible. The sex distracts them, then they realize too late that their pieces don't fit together."