In Jonathan Safran Foer's book "Here I Am," the idea is presented that people's negative actions often stem from their own emotional pain or wounds. When individuals are hurt, their behavior can reflect that hurt, leading to actions that may seem irrational or unkind. Recognizing the underlying wounds helps in understanding their behavior better.

This perspective emphasizes the importance of empathy and compassion in the process of forgiveness. By acknowledging that poor behavior is often a result of personal suffering, we can create a space for understanding and ultimately practice forgiveness, allowing for healing and connection rather than resentment.