In Joyce Carol Oates' "Little Bird of Heaven," the author explores the contrasting ways in which men and women experience and express emotions, particularly through crying. Women are portrayed as embracing their tears, using them as a form of purification and emotional release. This acceptance allows them to navigate their feelings openly and authentically.

In contrast, men are depicted as facing societal stigmas that discourage them from crying, leading to feelings of humiliation. Their inability to express vulnerability can leave them feeling burdened and 'stained' by unexpressed emotions. Oates highlights these gender dynamics in emotional expression, emphasizing how societal norms shape the experiences of both sexes.