In "Her Officer and Gentleman" by Karen Hawkins, the character reflects on the disillusionment with a man sent to guide and improve the lives of those he is meant to help. Instead of fulfilling his mission to civilize and mentor the lost sons, he seems to focus solely on pairing them off in marriage, leaving the narrator frustrated and disappointed.
This sense of obligation versus reality creates a tension in the narrative, as the characters grapple with their expectations versus the outcomes. The quote captures the irony of the situation, highlighting the frustrations felt by those who were hoping for more meaningful guidance, only to find their lives leading to marriages instead of personal growth or development.