In her book "Bad Feminist," Roxane Gay highlights the troubling societal patterns that enable and normalize the abuse of women by men, regardless of their fame or infamy. She argues that we often ignore or excuse the harmful actions of male figures, sending a message that they can act without consequence. This behavior reinforces the notion that women hold little value in society, which contributes to an environment where such abuse is tolerated.

Furthermore, Gay suggests that these repeated messages have a detrimental impact on young women, who may internalize the belief that they should accept violence and mistreatment. This normalization of abuse leads to a cycle where women may feel compelled to engage with harmful situations, despite the risks involved. The overarching theme in Gay's work is a call to confront and challenge the societal norms that perpetuate gender-based violence and inequality.