Mindy Kaling discusses the perception of success and failure in her book "Why Not Me?". She notes that people often feel threatened by others who are achieving their goals, while they are more comfortable when someone is struggling. This discomfort arises from a sense of competition or inadequacy, as their own lack of action can be highlighted by someone else's success.

She points out that shows like "Intervention" and public figures facing difficulties, like Amanda Bynes, engage audiences because they evoke concern and empathy. On the contrary, witnessing someone succeed can provoke feelings of jealousy and insecurity in others, leading them to want to undermine that success. Kaling encourages readers to remain steadfast and not be dissuaded by the fears or negativity of others.