Repentance is an internal shift
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In "The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse," Dan B. Allender discusses the profound concept of repentance as an internal transformation. Rather than merely a superficial acknowledgment of wrongdoing, he emphasizes that true repentance involves a deep, personal change within oneself. This shift allows individuals to confront their past traumas and begin the healing process, enabling a more authentic life moving forward.

Allender's insights highlight how the journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse necessitates recognizing and processing one's emotions and experiences deeply. The author stresses that embracing this internal shift is crucial for victims to reclaim their identities and find hope after enduring such significant pain. Ultimately, repentance serves as a foundation for rebuilding trust and fostering resilience in the aftermath of trauma.

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Self-doubt is common when our efforts fail to bring results. Failure is a rock in our shoe that nags us until we find relief. At first, failure to achieve our desired end will elicit careful scrutiny {What can I do better?} and resumed commitment {How can I try harder?}. Success may be achieved-straight As, an athletic scholarship, perfect Sunday school attendance-but the real goal-a happy family, an end to the abuse, or relief from the pain-is always out of reach.
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
Self-doubt is common when our efforts fail to bring results. Failure is a rock in our shoe that nags us until we find relief. At first, failure to achieve our desired end will elicit careful scrutiny {What can I do better?} and resumed commitment {How can I try harder?}. Success may be achieved-straight As, an athletic scholarship, perfect Sunday school attendance-but the real goal-a happy family, an end to the abuse, or relief from the pain-is always out of reach.
in our perceived source of life. It is recognizing that our self-protective means to avoiding hurt have not ushered us into real living {the reckless abandon to God that ultimately leads to a deep sense of wholeness and joy} or to purposeful, powerful relating. Repentance is the process of deeply acknowledging the supreme call to love, which is violated at every moment, in every relationship-a law that applies even to those who have been heinously victimized. The law of love removes excuses. The pain of past abuse does not justify unloving self-protection in the present.
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
in our perceived source of life. It is recognizing that our self-protective means to avoiding hurt have not ushered us into real living {the reckless abandon to God that ultimately leads to a deep sense of wholeness and joy} or to purposeful, powerful relating. Repentance is the process of deeply acknowledging the supreme call to love, which is violated at every moment, in every relationship-a law that applies even to those who have been heinously victimized. The law of love removes excuses. The pain of past abuse does not justify unloving self-protection in the present.
Repentance is an internal shift
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
Repentance is an internal shift
Because of the way God has made us, it is impossible finally and completely to deaden the soul. The soul will resurrect, in spite of the cruelty used to destroy it. It will pop up and then be slain again, return and be shoved down through contempt. The power to destroy the soul is not in the hands of Satan, another human being, or even oneself. Nevertheless, when we manage to deaden our soul, even temporarily, we open the door to terrible consequences.
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
Because of the way God has made us, it is impossible finally and completely to deaden the soul. The soul will resurrect, in spite of the cruelty used to destroy it. It will pop up and then be slain again, return and be shoved down through contempt. The power to destroy the soul is not in the hands of Satan, another human being, or even oneself. Nevertheless, when we manage to deaden our soul, even temporarily, we open the door to terrible consequences.
The triggering event and resulting shame is worse than being rejected because rejection assumes a path by which to return to acceptability. The fear involved in shame is of permanent abandonment, or exile. Those who see our reprehensible core will be so disgusted and sickened that we will be a leper and an outcast forever.
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
The triggering event and resulting shame is worse than being rejected because rejection assumes a path by which to return to acceptability. The fear involved in shame is of permanent abandonment, or exile. Those who see our reprehensible core will be so disgusted and sickened that we will be a leper and an outcast forever.
The damage done through abuse is awful and heinous, but minor compared to the dynamics that distort the victim's relationship with God and rob her of the joy of loving and being loved by others.
Dan B. Allender The Wounded Heart: Hope...
The damage done through abuse is awful and heinous, but minor compared to the dynamics that distort the victim's relationship with God and rob her of the joy of loving and being loved by others.
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