In her book "Almost Everything: Notes on Hope," Anne Lamott emphasizes the potential downsides of offering help. She suggests that sometimes assistance can be detrimental, especially when it prevents individuals from finding their own solutions to problems. This approach not only stifles personal growth but can also lead to a sense of dependency, where individuals struggle to navigate challenges independently.

Lamott indicates that while the intention behind helping is often positive, it can inadvertently become a form of control. When help is provided without considering the recipient's need for autonomy, it may undermine their ability to learn and grow from their experiences. Ultimately, Lamott advocates for a more mindful approach to offering support, recognizing the importance of allowing people to face their own struggles.