In his book "Mate: Become the Man Women Want," Tucker Max reflects on a quote by poet John Ciardi, discussing the nature of modern art. Ciardi suggests that modern art emerges when artists shift their focus from representing women to creating abstract ideas, often influenced by their own perceptions of beauty and creativity. This commentary critiques how artists sometimes distance themselves from traditional forms of expression in pursuit of an innovative identity.

Max uses this perspective to explore themes related to masculinity and attraction, emphasizing the importance of understanding genuine connections over superficial representations. He argues that, just as artists may stray from their subjects, men can lose sight of what truly resonates with women, leading to misguided attempts to impress. The book encourages men to engage authentically with their desires and relationships instead of relying on outdated or illusory notions of attraction.