Mindy Kaling expresses the intensity of her fears in her book "Why Not Me?" describing them as overwhelming and distressing experiences that can disrupt one’s peace, even causing physical reactions like sweating through clothes at night. She reflects on the severity of these fears, indicating that she would not wish such feelings on anyone.

Kaling also shares a sense of connection with others who experience similar anxieties. By acknowledging her own fears, she hopes to provide comfort to those who may feel alone in their struggles. The shared experience of fear can create a bond, and Kaling finds solace in knowing that both she and others face these challenges together.