When you are sixteen you do not know what your parents know, or much of what they understand, and less of what's in their hearts. This can save you from becoming an adult too early, save your life from becoming only theirs lived over again--which is a loss. But to shield yourself--as I didn't do--seems to be an even greater error, since what's lost is the truth of your parents' life and what you should think about it, and beyond that, how you should estimate the world you are about to live in.
The quote reflects on the journey of understanding between generations, particularly between adolescents and their parents. At sixteen, individuals often lack the insight into their parents' experiences and emotions, which can create a rift between them. This gap can provide a protective barrier that prevents youths from inheriting their parents' burdens or blindly living out their lives. However, this protection comes at a cost, as it also limits their understanding of their parents' truth and the complexities of life.
The author suggests that this lack of connection can lead to significant losses, preventing young people from gaining crucial wisdom that shapes their perception of the world. By shielding themselves too much, they miss opportunities to learn from their parents' experiences. Embracing this understanding could offer valuable lessons and facilitate a more profound grasp of both their identities and the world they are about to enter. Ultimately, it is a delicate balance between self-protection and openness to the truths within family relationships.
