In her memoir "Hunger," Roxane Gay reflects on the challenges of trusting in the goodness of relationships. She expresses concern that often the standard for relationships seems to be based on what is tolerable rather than what truly flourishes. This perspective reveals a deeper issue where individuals might overlook or undervalue healthy connections because their experiences have conditioned them to expect less.

Gay's insights indicate a struggle with self-perception and the complexity of recognizing happiness in relationships. Even when she has enjoyed positive connections, doubts linger due to past experiences. This internal conflict illustrates how societal expectations and personal history can shape one's view of love and companionship, making it difficult to fully embrace the joy of fulfilling relationships.