The authors of "He's Just Not That Into You," Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, emphasize the importance of being in a relationship where you feel appreciated and valued. They suggest that when you're with someone who truly cares about you, you won't find yourself anxiously checking your phone or feeling the need to reach out constantly. This behavior often stems from insecurity, indicating that the relationship may not be healthy or mutual.

Instead, when you’re with the right person, your focus will shift away from those anxious thoughts and towards the joy of being cherished. You will find fulfillment in the relationship rather than feeling like you have to chase after someone's attention. Ultimately, the right partner will treat you with such respect that you can enjoy moments without anxiety or self-doubt.