The quote highlights the lengths to which men might go to avoid hurting a woman’s feelings in a romantic context. It suggests that they would prefer to endure physical pain, such as losing an arm, rather than face the emotional fallout of honestly telling someone they are not interested. This reflects a fear of confrontation and the potential dramatic reactions that might follow from a rejection.
In essence, the authors, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, emphasize that many men struggle with delivering the truth in romantic situations. The fear of a negative response, including aggression or emotional distress from the woman, often leads to avoidance and dishonesty, complicating the dynamics of relationships and communication between men and women.