My parents never recognized the things that for me were achievements. I was praised for the things that came naturally to me, like my intelligence, but when I really put all my effort into looking nice {trying to}, it went unrecognised. No-one ever told me I looked pretty or nice, or that I was a beautiful person {to them} and I needed them to...
In "To Die For," author Carol Lee reflects on her experiences with parental recognition, feeling that her significant achievements often went unnoticed. While she received praise for her innate abilities such as intelligence, the efforts she put into her appearance were overlooked. This lack of acknowledgment left her craving validation and appreciation from her parents.
Lee highlights the contrast between the recognition she sought in her appearance and the unacknowledged struggles behind it. She expresses a deep desire for affirmation about her beauty, illustrating the emotional impact of her parents' indifference. Ultimately, this commentary sheds light on the importance of recognition in shaping one's self-esteem and the effects of familial relationships on personal identity.