In "Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body," author Roxane Gay reflects on the complexities of personal boundaries and societal expectations. She highlights how some individuals disregard others' wishes, such as someone insisting on hugging her despite her clear discomfort. This situation raises questions about why some people perceive set boundaries as obstacles rather than respecting them.

Gay's observations suggest a broader commentary on the human tendency to challenge personal limits, questioning the motives behind this behavior. It seems that many feel empowered to test boundaries, perhaps fueled by a desire to connect or assert control, ultimately disregarding the autonomy and comfort of the individual setting those limits.