Roxane Gay's reflections on shame illustrate the struggles she encounters due to societal perceptions of body image. She experiences street harassment from men who express their dissatisfaction with her body, attempting to impose their preferences on her. Such encounters showcase the disconnect between their desires and her personal autonomy, revealing how their comments are rooted in their insecurities regarding masculinity and entitlement.
Gay emphasizes that it is not her responsibility to conform to others' expectations regarding her appearance. Instead of internalizing their shameful remarks, she recognizes that their discomfort stems from their inability to navigate a world where not everyone fits their ideals. Thus, she asserts her right to exist as she is, free from the obligation to please others through her body.