In "To Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your Future," Dan B. Allender reflects on how the narratives we grow up with are often designed to shape the perceptions of ourselves and those around us. These familial stories serve as a form of propaganda, crafting a version of reality that may not be accurate, leading to a cycle of misinformation. Our identities are heavily influenced by the labels and narratives provided by our families, which can have lasting impacts throughout our lives.

The journey of self-discovery involves unraveling these imposed narratives to find our true selves, or as Allender puts it, to discover our "true name." This quest is vital for personal growth; however, many individuals do not take the courageous step to embark on this journey. Consequently, they may remain trapped by the limitations of their family's stories instead of exploring their authentic identities.