The problem with assuming disapproval is that we tend to perceive, and even actively create, what we expect to happen in our lives. If you are certain that someone is not going to like you, then when you speak with him, you will be paying closer attention to his subtle gestures and mannerisms. What did that sigh mean? Why did he look away
Aziz Gazipura's book, "The Solution to Social Anxiety," addresses the issues arising from the assumption of disapproval in social interactions. He explains that when we expect negativity from others, we become overly focused on their reactions, interpreting small cues as signs of judgment or disinterest. This heightened awareness can distort our perception and lead to unnecessary anxiety.
The author emphasizes that such expectations not only affect our interactions but can also create a self-fulfilling prophecy. If we believe someone won't like us, we may behave in ways that confirm that belief, ultimately shaping our social experiences negatively. By challenging these assumptions, we can improve our confidence and relationships with others.
