We will judge others based on their behaviors with little to no understanding or regard for their beliefs or values-standards we may not know, nor typically see. When we do this, things can be taken completely out of context because we are assessing their behavior against our expectations, which are produced from our own personal value system.
In her book "The Art of Communication," Susan C. Young emphasizes how we often evaluate others solely based on their actions, overlooking their beliefs and values. This tendency can lead to misunderstandings, as our judgments are influenced by our own personal standards, which may differ significantly from those of others.
This approach can result in behaviors being misinterpreted, taken out of context, or unfairly criticized. Young highlights the importance of recognizing and respecting diverse perspectives, as effective communication hinges on understanding others beyond our own expectations and value systems.