In Anne Lamott's book "Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith," she emphasizes the importance of experiencing grief rather than avoiding it. She argues that while it's tempting to use distractions or substances to numb the pain, this coping mechanism ultimately takes away from the valuable lessons and emotional insights that grief can provide. By embracing sorrow, individuals can uncover meaningful aspects of their lives and personal growth.

Lamott suggests that the process of grieving, though painful, is essential for healing and developing a deeper understanding of oneself. The "flecks and nuggets of gold" she refers to symbolize the wisdom, empathy, and strength that emerge from facing and processing our emotional suffering. Therefore, welcoming grief can lead to a more profound and transformative experience in life.