When we have negative feelings towards someone or feel threatened, our instinct is to zero in on their flaws or irritating traits. This focus on what we dislike prevents us from seeing their true, deeper qualities and beauty.
This attitude not only affects how we perceive others but also damages them emotionally. By concentrating on their negative traits, we drain their confidence and energy, unintentionally harming them rather than helping or understanding them. (Quote from The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield)