When we dislike someone, or feel threatened by someone, the natural tendency is to focus on something we dislike about the person, something that irritates us. Unfortunately, when we do this--instead of seeing the deeper beauty of the person and giving them energy--we take energy away and actually do them harm. All they know is that they suddenly feel less beautiful and less confident, and it is because we sapped their energy.
When we have negative feelings towards someone or feel threatened, our instinct is to zero in on their flaws or irritating traits. This focus on what we dislike prevents us from seeing their true, deeper qualities and beauty.
This attitude not only affects how we perceive others but also damages them emotionally. By concentrating on their negative traits, we drain their confidence and energy, unintentionally harming them rather than helping or understanding them. (Quote from The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield)
