如果你克制情绪——如果你不允许自己经历它们——你永远无法超然，因为你太忙于害怕。你害怕痛苦，你害怕悲伤。你害怕爱所带来的脆弱。但是，通过让自己沉浸在这些情绪中，让自己完全沉浸其中，甚至超越自己的头顶，你就能充分、完整地体验它们。你知道什么是痛苦。你知道什么是爱。你知道什么是悲伤。只有这样你才能说，好吧。我经历过那种情感。我认得那种情绪。现在我需要暂时摆脱这种情绪。
(If you hold back on the emotions - if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them - you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.)