如果您坚持情绪 - 如果您不允许自己一直穿过这些情绪 - 您永远无法被超越，那么您太忙于害怕。您害怕痛苦，害怕悲伤。您担心爱的脆弱性。但是，通过让自己陷入这些情绪中，让自己可以全面地俯冲，一路，一路，全面地体验到它们。你知道痛苦是什么。你知道爱是什么。你知道什么是悲伤。只有这样，您才能说：“好吧，我经历了这种情感。我认识到这种情绪。现在，我需要暂时脱离这种情绪。
(If you hold back on the emotions - if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them - you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, ,all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. you know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, 'All right, I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.)