If a man has reported to you, that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make any defense to what has been told you: but reply, The man did not know the rest of my faults, for he would not have mentioned these only.
📖 Epictetus
In this quote from Epictetus' "Handbook," the author advises against reacting defensively when someone informs you that another person is speaking negatively about you. Instead of engaging in a debate or a defense of your character, he suggests acknowledging that the critic likely overlooks many other flaws you might have. This perspective encourages humility and self-awareness rather than defensiveness.
Epictetus emphasizes the idea that criticism can often be superficial, only highlighting certain traits without considering the whole person. By recognizing that others may not have a complete understanding of who you are, you can remain composed and avoid being drawn into unnecessary conflicts. This approach fosters a sense of inner peace and detachment from external judgments.
