的确,我们最能问的是他人的指导和安慰,并在无处不在,设计或奖励的思想上。这是关系的热情好客:让家人帮助我们体现我们世界上的身份,使我们的朋友带我们到现实的门槛,让亲人鼓励我们跨越自己的障碍,进入充分的时光。(Truly, the most we can ask of others is for their guidance and comfort on the way-without imposition, design, or thought of reward. This is the hospitality of relationship: for family to help us manifest who we are in the world, for friends to bring us to thresholds of realness, for loved ones to encourage us to cross barriers of our own making into moments of full aliveness.)