当我在尼日利亚长大时——我不应该说尼日利亚,因为这太笼统了,但在我来自的国家的伊博族地区阿菲克波——总是有年轻人的成人仪式。男人被教导以我们不是女人的方式成为男人;本质上就是这样。
(When I was growing up in Nigeria - and I shouldn't say Nigeria, because that's too general, but in Afikpo, the Igbo part of the country where I'm from - there were always rites of passage for young men. Men were taught to be men in the ways in which we are not women; that's essentially what it is.)